You may be afraid to get involved in someone else’s business. Here are some ways you can help:

Say Something

People who are being hurt in a relationship often feel alone, like they can’t talk to anyone. They may think that the abuse is their fault or that they deserve it. Let your friend know that you are there, that you’re willing to listen and that you’re not going to judge.

Support, Believe

Support your friend by making it clear that the abuse is not deserved and is not his or her fault. Recognize that there are MANY reasons why your friend may not be ready to leave the relationship. Let her or him know that you will be there regardless.

Take Action

Your friend may tell you about the abuse only if you promise to keep it a secret. Violence and abuse are not the types of problems that should be covered up and kept secret. Help your friend find a supportive adult to talk to. Go with your friend to talk to this person. Provide your friend with phone numbers of support centers and crisis hotlines:

Call the Center Against Domestic Violence at 1-718-254-9134.
If you are outside of New York City, call the National Teen Dating Violence Helpline at 1-866-331-9474.